Is any of your relationships troublesome??

Are your friends nasty?  Are your siblings troublesome to you? Any of the relationships worth keeping but you find difficult to cope up with? One side of brain wants to come out of that relationship but the other part says “One more try”?

In such a case first thing you need to analyze is if the relation is really worth keeping? If the relation has been a great support, then yes of course you need to overcome little troubles but if that relation has been a great source of reasons to cry then just let it all go!! Remember the things you learnt and forget the difficult phases.

Once you have realized that relation is really worth keeping, then there are certain things you can do to change the situations and circumstances. The first and foremost thing is to have acceptance and love for your own self. Take time off and give more to yourself. More love, more time for introspection. You need to have something first then only you can give to others. So you need to give more love to yourself. Go for doing those things that make you feel good, happy and rejuvenated.

When you have gained enough energy and momentum to be happy and high, you can turn any difficult situation around. Now sit down with a pen and a paper and write down all the things that you appreciate about the other person (the one you think is troublesome). It may be how supportive he/she is or it could be his/her sense of humor you enjoy etc. For next 30 days keep on writing their qualities and feel good remembering and reading them.

Once you will start doing that you will realize even more qualities to appreciate about them. And what will happen in those 30 days is a complete change in your relationship with that person.

In case that person is really in a mood or attitude that does not match the frequency you are on, then you will be put in a new, different reality away from that person. And that would definitely be for your betterment!!  You might find the company of new people with similar interests and thinking or might find some new activity to pursue that would make you feel even more joyous and alive. So trust the moments that come your way and enjoy!!

Looking for a best friend or a perfect match??

The approach almost 98% of the people follow when it comes to finding a perfect match or a great friend is just the opposite of what actually should be done. First let’s see what most of us do then we will explore the actual way of doing the same.

It’s a general tendency to have a crush on someone or to have a desire to be friends with someone we truly admire. But over a span of time after spending so much time together, we develop strong emotional attachment for that person. Now the only thing we want to pursue for is reciprocation of our feelings and efforts from that person. Well what if the other person has never thought of you the same way? You are hurt. You are broke. You not even try to give a single thought to what the other person has in mind. May be the same kind of feelings but for someone else!!

The point I want to make is that everybody has a free will to choose. It’s true you can make use of your mind power to attract the perfect relations in your life. Now let’s see what all we have to do in order to make it happen.

The first and the foremost thing you need to do is to make it absolutely clear in your mind what all traits you want your dream partner or your great friend to have. Your job is to focus on the traits not the person. This is the key point where many of us get stumbled upon. We like the person first then start adjusting with that person’s behavior and in case it’s difficult to cope up with the differences in the thinking and opinions we realize we made a wrong choice. Then comes the season of grumbles, fights, cries etc etc.

We feel like running away from that relationship or friendship but many of us are not even comfortable with that because of our so called caring friends (who are by the way there to have fun most of the times). It is difficult to come out as change is always uncomfortable but no relation is worth being in unless it is full of support, love and respect. The fact is either you are happy in a relation or not. If you are unhappy wouldn’t be now the right time to change it?

So what are you waiting for? Pick up a pen and a paper and jot down the qualities of your dream partner or your perfect best friend. Right down what all moments you would like to spend with that person. Just imagine how that dream relationship would look like.

Now the catch is once you are done with the imagination process, you have to re-read the things you have written daily and keep your senses open!! Whenever the opportunity is there, intuitive nudge from within is there, just act. May be that dream person would be sitting next to your table in a coffee shop. Or he/she might be already a friend of you, probably would never have looked up for those qualities in that person.

Remember some relations are given to us by default i.e. parents, siblings, cousins. We have to be with them even if sometimes our cousins or siblings are nasty.  But friendship is a clairvoyant. It’s a matter of choice. Wouldn’t it be great to make a choice to be happy?Begin a new journey of love, care, support and respect!! Call is yours!!