Choose Them Wisely!!

Whatever you think about, you bring about. If you have a thought and you keep on thinking about the same thought over and over again that thought becomes your reality. Let’s have a look at how it exactly happens.

It is scientifically proven that our mind is a very powerful transmitting device. It transmits thoughts of different frequencies depending upon the quality of the thoughts. Each and every thought has a frequency associated with it. As we keep on holding the same thoughts over a period of time, we attract them as pictures of our life i.e. the things which are on the same frequency as our thoughts become our realities.

All of us know the working of antenna used to catch up signals on the television? The antenna has a particular frequency. Any of the channels matching that frequency is visible on the television screen, right? Similar is the working of human mind. The thoughts can be measured in terms of frequency. For our mind it does not make a difference whether something is happening actually or virtually. That means we can easily befool our minds? Yes, we can. So why not to use it to our advantage?

In the upcoming articles we will see how we can utilize this concept in different fields of our lives in order to make them the way we want them to be.

Looking for a best friend or a perfect match??

The approach almost 98% of the people follow when it comes to finding a perfect match or a great friend is just the opposite of what actually should be done. First let’s see what most of us do then we will explore the actual way of doing the same.

It’s a general tendency to have a crush on someone or to have a desire to be friends with someone we truly admire. But over a span of time after spending so much time together, we develop strong emotional attachment for that person. Now the only thing we want to pursue for is reciprocation of our feelings and efforts from that person. Well what if the other person has never thought of you the same way? You are hurt. You are broke. You not even try to give a single thought to what the other person has in mind. May be the same kind of feelings but for someone else!!

The point I want to make is that everybody has a free will to choose. It’s true you can make use of your mind power to attract the perfect relations in your life. Now let’s see what all we have to do in order to make it happen.

The first and the foremost thing you need to do is to make it absolutely clear in your mind what all traits you want your dream partner or your great friend to have. Your job is to focus on the traits not the person. This is the key point where many of us get stumbled upon. We like the person first then start adjusting with that person’s behavior and in case it’s difficult to cope up with the differences in the thinking and opinions we realize we made a wrong choice. Then comes the season of grumbles, fights, cries etc etc.

We feel like running away from that relationship or friendship but many of us are not even comfortable with that because of our so called caring friends (who are by the way there to have fun most of the times). It is difficult to come out as change is always uncomfortable but no relation is worth being in unless it is full of support, love and respect. The fact is either you are happy in a relation or not. If you are unhappy wouldn’t be now the right time to change it?

So what are you waiting for? Pick up a pen and a paper and jot down the qualities of your dream partner or your perfect best friend. Right down what all moments you would like to spend with that person. Just imagine how that dream relationship would look like.

Now the catch is once you are done with the imagination process, you have to re-read the things you have written daily and keep your senses open!! Whenever the opportunity is there, intuitive nudge from within is there, just act. May be that dream person would be sitting next to your table in a coffee shop. Or he/she might be already a friend of you, probably would never have looked up for those qualities in that person.

Remember some relations are given to us by default i.e. parents, siblings, cousins. We have to be with them even if sometimes our cousins or siblings are nasty.  But friendship is a clairvoyant. It’s a matter of choice. Wouldn’t it be great to make a choice to be happy?Begin a new journey of love, care, support and respect!! Call is yours!!

If you think you are overweight or underweight, think again!!

Weight is one of the major concerns when it comes to buying new clothes, or choosing a dress for the party or changing your wardrobe.  The first and foremost thing that comes to almost everyone’s mind about achieving perfect weight is “DIETING”. Yes achieving perfect weight. If you really want your body weigh as much as you wish, you have to get losing weight out of your mind. The reason being when you concentrate on losing weight you will attract losing more weight, though you want to attain proper weight?

The other thing is dieting. No doubt diet is critical to provide nourishment to our body but one thing we lack understanding is that diet provides the nourishment only in the way we think it would provide. That is even if you are taking a healthy diet or the diet prescribed by the dietician but thinking thoughts of not achieving the proper weight or thinking it’s not working, that diet would really not work out. This is what I love to call “Fatty Thoughts”. So keep those fatty thoughts out of mind and taste and eat everything you relish.

There are evidences in our day to day experiences that same diets affect different people in different ways. It’s all because of the differences in their thoughts. We do have heard many people saying “I can’t eat this, I will put on more wait, and already I am so fat”. These words might have slipped through your tongue as well? If yes, then shout out loud “I am achieving perfect weight now, I can eat whatever I have taste for” and start relishing the dishes you have been desperately wanting to ingest.

Imagine yourself the way you would look once you have achieved perfect weight for your body. Start shopping for the clothes you would wear after achieving your desirable figure. Just talk, walk and eat the way you would once you have attained that perfect body. Choose your thoughts to be of perfect weight and believe you can and then just feel good as if you have already succeeded in your goal.

The same principle applies for those who want to gain weight. Go shop for the clothes but this time one size bigger than the one you used to wear. As you and your thoughts need to say “I have gained weight so I need to wear clothes of bigger size now”. Believe it is possible. Feel gaining mass on your arms, legs and different parts of the body. And above all just feel good; feel happy for your new figure.

Friends it’s all about what we think not what the food thinks. While consuming each bite of your meal just enjoy chewing it and feel each molecule of it nourishing each part of your body perfectly. Now just go and grab your favorite dish and let the magic begin!!

Wanted to score 95 got 80 or 85??

Today in this world of cut-throat competition where everybody wants to be a topper, how can I afford to score less? I studied too hard to score 95 but my bad luck brought me only 80, is it my fate? I study hard but don’t know what happens when it comes to writing in the exam I flunk. Why me God? My neighbor’s daughter and my son both study in same school, go to same coaching class but why my son struggles to just pass the exams while that girl tops the class always? Does any of these questions sound familiar?

Of course, this is story of one or the other kid in some way. Not only kids but also students doing graduation or even post-graduation face the same issues when it comes to writing the exams and clearing them with distinction. All of us expect to score great after putting in such efforts. Then why only few of us manage to outshine though all of us put in similar efforts in one way or the other?

Firstly, I would like to make it absolutely clear that it has nothing to do with your fate. Your fortune changes every fraction of a second. Then what could be the probable reason for such huge differences in the results?

The difference is in “THINKING”. Do you have any of the following thoughts in your mind when you actually expect to top in the class:

·         Please God let her not perform great in the exams, as I want to top.

·         If my competitor falls sick, I have a better chance of being a topper this time.

Both the above listed statements show negative emotions in terms of jealousy, inferiority complex, competition. You might be astonished to see competition as a negative emotion. But it’s true. Competition is a negative emotion that comes from the feeling of lack. So just get the theme of competition absolutely out of your mind.

Always remember whatever we think about, we bring about.  So if you are thinking about competing you will keep on bringing competition in your life wherever you would go, whatsoever you would choose.  That’s why it is really important to think of only those things that we want us to happen.

It is really very easy to score 95 or 99 or even 100 or whatever you aim at. But the catch is you have to be absolutely clear in your mind with what you want. The thoughts and feelings associated with that aim or idea must be positive. You can create a poster or a card and hang it on the wall exactly in front of your bed so that every morning when you get up you are revised with what you actually want. On the poster or card whatever you create you can write:

·         I am through to the ABC Test with 95% or 99% or whatever score you want.

·         I can clear the test with 88%. It must be believable for you.

·         I am capable of getting through to the Chemistry test with 90%.

You can create any message of your own depending on what you want to achieve academically. Whenever you look at that poster or card just smile and feel good thinking asyou have already achieved that score. It works for everyone irrespective of the fact whether you scored well in your last exams or not. Every day is a new beginning. Let’s begin today with this new idea and create an academic record of our own choice.

Is any of your relationships troublesome??

Are your friends nasty?  Are your siblings troublesome to you? Any of the relationships worth keeping but you find difficult to cope up with? One side of brain wants to come out of that relationship but the other part says “One more try”?

In such a case first thing you need to analyze is if the relation is really worth keeping? If the relation has been a great support, then yes of course you need to overcome little troubles but if that relation has been a great source of reasons to cry then just let it all go!! Remember the things you learnt and forget the difficult phases.

Once you have realized that relation is really worth keeping, then there are certain things you can do to change the situations and circumstances. The first and foremost thing is to have acceptance and love for your own self. Take time off and give more to yourself. More love, more time for introspection. You need to have something first then only you can give to others. So you need to give more love to yourself. Go for doing those things that make you feel good, happy and rejuvenated.

When you have gained enough energy and momentum to be happy and high, you can turn any difficult situation around. Now sit down with a pen and a paper and write down all the things that you appreciate about the other person (the one you think is troublesome). It may be how supportive he/she is or it could be his/her sense of humor you enjoy etc. For next 30 days keep on writing their qualities and feel good remembering and reading them.

Once you will start doing that you will realize even more qualities to appreciate about them. And what will happen in those 30 days is a complete change in your relationship with that person.

In case that person is really in a mood or attitude that does not match the frequency you are on, then you will be put in a new, different reality away from that person. And that would definitely be for your betterment!!  You might find the company of new people with similar interests and thinking or might find some new activity to pursue that would make you feel even more joyous and alive. So trust the moments that come your way and enjoy!!

Looking for a best friend or a perfect match??

The approach almost 98% of the people follow when it comes to finding a perfect match or a great friend is just the opposite of what actually should be done. First let’s see what most of us do then we will explore the actual way of doing the same.

It’s a general tendency to have a crush on someone or to have a desire to be friends with someone we truly admire. But over a span of time after spending so much time together, we develop strong emotional attachment for that person. Now the only thing we want to pursue for is reciprocation of our feelings and efforts from that person. Well what if the other person has never thought of you the same way? You are hurt. You are broke. You not even try to give a single thought to what the other person has in mind. May be the same kind of feelings but for someone else!!

The point I want to make is that everybody has a free will to choose. It’s true you can make use of your mind power to attract the perfect relations in your life. Now let’s see what all we have to do in order to make it happen.

The first and the foremost thing you need to do is to make it absolutely clear in your mind what all traits you want your dream partner or your great friend to have. Your job is to focus on the traits not the person. This is the key point where many of us get stumbled upon. We like the person first then start adjusting with that person’s behavior and in case it’s difficult to cope up with the differences in the thinking and opinions we realize we made a wrong choice. Then comes the season of grumbles, fights, cries etc etc.

We feel like running away from that relationship or friendship but many of us are not even comfortable with that because of our so called caring friends (who are by the way there to have fun most of the times). It is difficult to come out as change is always uncomfortable but no relation is worth being in unless it is full of support, love and respect. The fact is either you are happy in a relation or not. If you are unhappy wouldn’t be now the right time to change it?

So what are you waiting for? Pick up a pen and a paper and jot down the qualities of your dream partner or your perfect best friend. Right down what all moments you would like to spend with that person. Just imagine how that dream relationship would look like.

Now the catch is once you are done with the imagination process, you have to re-read the things you have written daily and keep your senses open!! Whenever the opportunity is there, intuitive nudge from within is there, just act. May be that dream person would be sitting next to your table in a coffee shop. Or he/she might be already a friend of you, probably would never have looked up for those qualities in that person.

Remember some relations are given to us by default i.e. parents, siblings, cousins. We have to be with them even if sometimes our cousins or siblings are nasty.  But friendship is a clairvoyant. It’s a matter of choice. Wouldn’t it be great to make a choice to be happy?Begin a new journey of love, care, support and respect!! Call is yours!!